I often get asked for advice on good resources for growing stronger marriages. I also often find myself involved with husbands & wives who’ve been too embarrassed to ask for advice but should have! Anyway, if you fit into either of these categories, here are my top 5 current tips for useful resources:
1. The Bible – I’m not kidding. There is no better resource for your marriage than to read God’s word together as a husband & wife and then talk about what you’ve read and pray together.
2. Fireproof – for those who struggle to pick up a book, this is a really good Christian movie that deals with a lot of issues that challenge many marriages. As an added bonus for those in their 30s, the main character is played by Kirk Cameron – remember him from the 80s sitcom ‘Growing Pains’!?
3. The Love Dare – this is actually a book that features in the storyline of the movie ‘Fireproof’. Without ruining the movie for you, the book is a 40 day challenge intended for a husband or wife to secretly take on in order to grow their marriage. Each day includes a Bible verse/passage, reflection and application and space to journal your response.
4. The seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – This is a very good book even though it’s written from a non-Christian perspective. The author, John Gottman, is famous for his scientific approach to discovering what makes good marriage succeed and bad marriages fail. Ideal to be read and discussed as a couple.
5. The Marriage Course – a 7-week DVD-based course that we’ve run at Southern Cross for the last 3 years. While we’re taking a break this year, the Marriage Course will be run again in 2010 as we focus on the ‘Grow’ aspect of our mission statement. Stay tuned.